Boundaries With Kids
Introduction
What it’s about
Explains that to book teaches…
how to prevent boundary problems.
the parent how to behave with the child
Quotes from this chapter I liked
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11
Your task as a parent is to help your child develop inside him what you have been providing on the outside: responsibility, self control and freedom.
Personal
This scenario happened today, just as it does everyday…
Isaac does something that he isn’t supposed to. I correct him or ask him to sit on the step and he replies “I’m not going to be your friend anymore”.
I don’t like when Isaac says this. I think it’s manipulative and I don’t want him to try to hurt people’s feelings just because he doesn’t agree with them. He has been saying this for months but today it finally dawned on me-- I can make him STOP saying this by giving him a consistent consequence. I talked to Adam about it and we decided that the appropriate consequence would be 10 minutes of sitting on his bed in his room if he says it again. I think I will add time if he doesn’t follow the directions. This seems like a natural consequence for me…If he doesn’t want to be my friend, then he can see what it’s like to have no friends.
There things that Isaac does that I don’t like for one reason or another. So often I forget that I am in charge. I’m the one that is supposed to be in control- making the decisions of what he is and is not allowed to do and say. He needs me to tell him if something is okay or not okay. And I need to be the adult and give him the structure to help him grow into something beautiful.
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A good word, Michelle, that YOU (And Adam too!) are the parent and can assert your authority in Isaac's life. It is good for him. I also LOVE the appropriate consequence of sitting in his room, to see what it's like to have no friends. That gave me a good laugh!
ReplyDeleteI'll see if I can get this book. We are needing more structured discipline with E these days. I'm feeling more reactive than proactive.
That is so funny--- I read this comment and it made me realize that he has only been sent to his room twice for this-- and the last time was probably a week ago :-). That's good!
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